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The Divorce magazine
Here you will find an online magazine that is full of valuable content and information on all things divorce including articles on children and divorce, the divorce process and life after divorce.
Graduate member of The British Psycholgoical Society. Holder of two degrees --- BSc (Hons) in Psychology from The Open Univeristy and an MSc from UCL (University College London) in Psychoanalytic Developmental Psychology.---Accredited Parenting Pracitioner (Triple P) --- Certified Trauma Specialist in working with Children of Trauma and their parents. --- Founder and Editor of www.thedivorcemagazine.co.uk --- Twice divorced mum of two so has plenty of experience of divorce, parenting through divorce and life after divorce. For me see the About Soila page on this site
Parenting Practitioner and Consultant
Child and Adolescent Trauma Therapist
Helping Children Cope with Divorce
Editor and Founder of The Divorce Magazine
What People are Saying
I overheard a conversation at the school playground this morning which I thought I would share with you. A boy, whose parents are currently going through divorce (I know this as one of the parents has talked to me about their situation) was telling another child about his birthday. He explained that on the day itself, he had[…]
I cannot tell you how many of my adult friends went through some truly traumatic experiences as children which they never told their parents about until much later, if at all. Yet one thing almost each one of them has said at some point or other is that they’re surprised their parents never the changes[…]
Parents very often state that they will do anything for their children, anything, yet when it comes to divorce and co-parenting, there are many who do the exact opposite. If you and your ex-partner are struggling with your parenting plan, do contact me by emailing me firstname.lastname@example.org. Sometimes, all it takes is a tweak here[…]
Knowing what has triggered your child’s change in behaviour is the best way to start dealing with it. That knowledge gives you some sort of guide as to what needs to be done in order for you and your family to return to the way it used to be. The trigger could be something obvious[…]
If you find that your child’s behaviour has recently changed then here’s a question that you may want to ask yourself as a way of finding out what may be causing the change in behaviour. Has there been a recent occurrence/change in your child’s life? By this I mean has something triggered your child’s change in[…]
How children cope with divorce and life after divorce really depends on how their parents deal with all the changes that are happening. I often say that the divorce itself will always be a watershed moment in your child’s life but what is even more crucial, is how their life after the physical separation is handled because[…]
This video is solely on how to prevent temper tantrums. I’ll be talking about managing them in my next video. Tempter tantrums may begin to emerge at around 12 months old. Your child is becoming more mobile and more independent than she was at the crawling stage. He wants to perform a certain task and when he[…]
This is the final part of a three part post. Click here for part 1 (Raising Children of Divorce – Don’t Involve them In Adult Matters) and Part 2 (Children of divorce need a conflict free environment). Finally, children of divorce need both parents, unless of course there are real issues around their safety and[…]
For part 1 (Raising Children of divorce – The need to be excluded from adult matters) This is part 2 Raising Children of Divorce – Conflict Free Environment – where we talk about providing children of divorce with a conflict free environment. Let’s keep it real though. Even in “happy” homes there will be moments[…]
Co-parenting with Deesah Philyaw and Michael D. Thomas One of the most important interviews that I have ever done! What’s amazing about this book is the fact that Deesha and Michael were once a married couple. One of the questions they get all the time is that they must have had a very amicable break-up[…]